I saw a mother crying in the mall….’am just tired, we have been looking for him for like 20 minutes now’, she said……her 3 year old son had run off and was missing…..
As the mother explained,they had come to window shop and also get some things for the house and while she was busy looking round the boy let go and started running around the mall, she said she didn’t run after him because he was not far from her but in a twinkle of an eye, it could have been another story entirely for that family all in the name of shopping.
Believe me shopping is not bad but it’s not a hobby or a leisure kind of thing,it’s a necessity as in it is very necessary to human living. So I don’t think it should be approached with unseriousness. Yes you can have fun while shopping if you don’t have anything else you need to do, but when you are with a child below 10, you should be very watchful, Infact any age at all, because tragedy does not know age or gender.
We in this country believe the word “summer” it’s meant for the rich and famous who have the money to travel abroad for the holiday; even if it’s Ghana or Ivory Coast. I am relieved a bit that most of the people that don’t see themselves as rich and famous are coming to terms with the idea that summer time is for everyone both for The oyibo people and us, whether you are rich or poor. The emphasis is on the season not in the process of spending time during the season, whatever you do it still remains summer until the season changes.
Some parents are part of the reason why some children see seasons or things in general differently. Remember parents mould the children first before they go out into the world. Please be ware of what you feed your Children especially mentally. It can affect them in a perpetual way that only God can restore that child or children in some cases.
Now concerning doing things with your children this summer, instead of putting yourself through pain by not watching over them when you take them out, just stay indoors and do some exercises like reading, puzzle games and all kinds of educative and mind developing games like word games,If you have boys indulge them in games, a less violent one and girls can learn to make dress or braid hair…..it’s never too early to start, universities these days are reviewing curriculums so you never know which course they will pick I think we have a lot of all the big engineers and doctors already waiting for where to fit in yet……so broaden your horizon…..
You can make lists of what you need with them in the house and let it be fun, then you go alone and get the things, believe me you spend less and it’s faster too.. So you don’t have to go through some minutes madness like that woman at the mall went through.
My people, we are changing and the world we live in is changing and things are being modified and technologized daily….pardon me I couldn’t find something that suits better….so don’t be left out or be victims of the change, be a part of the change but for good and not for bad.
God did not tell us to be free so we can put ourselves in deep messes He has already gotten us out of one major one…so all we need do is just be wise and not let what other people do overtake our own power of freewill.
This summer, watch over your Children like a hawk and let God do his part with His angels, don’t give them your job. And if you have a nanny, observe her or him or them as some people have and make sure they don’t pull the rug from under you…if you need to make adjustments at work it’s worth the sacrifice and don’t feel bad even if they have to cut into your salary, believe me your children’s time with you is more precious than anything.
Most importantly, plan yourself always because even The bible advises us to but make sure you plan and commit it to Gods hands then he will direct your path. Even if you don’t have enough money and are saving for something better and more important don’t worry, just make the best of the time you have with them.
I once met a guy who had three children and didn’t have much, he was worried that the holidays might be boring and dull because the children are older and they need more things to stimulate them, so I asked him if he had DSTV or GOTV he said he has GOTV, I encouraged him to pay for the one he can afford an try and watch as a family, when they pick programs to watch together it will be fun, they didn’t have money for travel or shopping but they had each other, when I saw his wife I asked her and she said he comes home early most times from his shop so he can spend more time with the children and her and he even help with house chores and the children’s summer home work and projects.
Be versatile this summer don’t look at what others are doing so you don’t die of heart attack or fall into the wrong hands or crowd. Be content and thank God but make sure you are not pretending, you might fool man but you can’t fool God, self denial brings sorrow and pain too. And you that you have plenty money thank God too and sow into peoples lives this summer….self righteousness causes even more pain and sorrow because you live in perpetual denial.
Shop if you need to with your family but be very very very observant and watchful don’t let the devil laugh this season….God pass Devil…….
God bless you all….